Growing up in the age of social media can be difficult for anyone, but sometimes it seems to hit teenage girls the hardest. Navigating the already existing social challenges of “mattering and belonging,” peer pressure and maintaining a positive body image can certainly add to the toll. Add in the whispers, emoji’s and competition for “likes” and even the most confident girl can begin to question her value.
Open Communication
Most teen girls value their privacy and often aren’t comfortable talking about their feelings. The important thing to do is keep the lines of communication open and listen, rather than immediately judge or try to fix the problem. Many young women don’t like to admit that they need help navigating this tricky time in their lives, so making it clear that you are always there no matter what, is key.
Do You Have Device Rules in Place?
Many parents feel pressured to allow their children to have full time access to phones, iPads and laptops. Just because other parents allow free reign, don’t think that you have to. Studies have shown that children who balance screen time with other activities are much more well rounded and successful at navigating peer pressure. Many schools are banning phones during class, so there is no reason you can’t ban a phone in the bedroom at night.
Make it a Priority to Stay Plugged In
There are other things parents can do. The first is to routinely ask about friends, friend groups and what is showing up on social media these days. It doesn’t have to be something scandalous, but expressing your interest in routine, day-to-day life can often lead to surprising conversations with your daughter. The second is to check in often with other parents and teachers to gauge how things are going socially. Other parents usually have the same fears and are relieved to share information and their own concerns.
Hugs Matter
The more children can develop a sense of confidence and feeling loved at an early age, the more they take what they see online and keep it in perspective. Kids don’t like to admit it, but hugs can go a long way!
At Suffolk Counseling Services, we work with both parents and children who may need emotional support after experiencing difficulties related to the effects of social media. Our mental health providers are down to earth, intelligent and well versed with addressing the many ill effects of social media. If you are concerned about your child’s wellbeing, please contact us today to make an appointment at one of our three convenient locations. We are always here to help reassure you and together find the best course of action.
